June 20th

A few days ago me and this dude, finished editing the video filmed during my last few weeks in the Ecuador.  Yes, I’ve been home a while, and yes, I do still have several draft posts filled with deliciously gory details of my medical escapades on the flip side of the equator, but frankly, they will have to wait.  This is a whisk through Ecuador accompanied by the wonderful warblings of Compay Segundo‘s vocal chords.  The title was taken from a nursery rhyme-esque song by Roberto Carlos that was played inexplicably loudly as children skipped and giggled their way to school in the morning.   The placid tones woke us, or more accurately, woke me, up every morning at sparrow fart, (which may be any time between 5 and 7am, for the exact commencement has been much debated and never agreed upon).

If you were hoping for blood and guts and hospital shots then you will be disappointed (well, there is a bit of blood so all is not lost if that’s your bag), but there are a lot of butterflies which makes me a bit chirpier about my retrospectively stupid blog name.  If you can be bothered I would suggest you go to vimeo and watch it in HD, it makes an incredible difference.

Warning: It features a lot more of my mug than I would’ve cared for, but there you go, view at your ophthalmic peril.

Enjoy!

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April 17th
A veces no hay próxima vez, a veces no hay segundas oportunidades, a veces es ahora o nunca. (at Parque Nacional El Cajas)

A veces no hay próxima vez, a veces no hay segundas oportunidades, a veces es ahora o nunca. (at Parque Nacional El Cajas)

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August 31st
 

I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, I urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of “affection” you are endorsing.

When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase “hitting on girls” comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the “it’s so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves her” asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While you’re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.

My daughter is 10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, “that just means he likes you” line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don’t hurt her and they don’t put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn’t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, “STOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING ME” in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, “he probably has a crush on you”. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice givers’ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid’s ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldn’t say, “he probably just wants a play date”.

I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn’t deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn’t involve hitting girls. I can’t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I can’t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.

The next time that someone offers up that little “secret” to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, “I LOVE YOU”.

 
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 ‎I do not believe that just because you’re opposed to abortion, that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. And why would I think that you don’t? Because you don’t want any tax money to go there. That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is. 

Sister Joan Chittister, Catholic Nun (via timehasflewn)

holy shit i love this quote

(via glitter-femin1sts)

(via stfueverything)

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July 9th

I feel like this needs to be said. Again. “Women and girls are not vending machines you drop kindness coins into until sex falls out”

stfuhypocrisy:

kidbeatdown:

inner-tardis:

hug-sensei:

stfuhypocrisy:

So please fuck off.

^This

Oh dear, still no cure for Nice-Guy Syndrome?

So men who are nice to females only do so for sex?

No. But for the guys who ARE only nice to girls/women because they think they will be rewarded, are not actually nice guys. They have major Nice Guy Syndrome or  NGS™. 

(Source: stfueverything, via stfueverything)

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June 30th
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May 2nd
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April 29th
inothernews:

CNN’s handy graphic showing the number of jobs lost (in red and mostly obstructed by Ali Velshi) and jobs gained (in green) during Obama’s presidency.  I guess that’s why Republicans only see red.

inothernews:

CNN’s handy graphic showing the number of jobs lost (in red and mostly obstructed by Ali Velshi) and jobs gained (in green) during Obama’s presidency.

I guess that’s why Republicans only see red.

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April 3rd
 Today a young man on acid realized that all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration, that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively, there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves.
Heres Tom with the Weather. 
— Bill Hicks (via lleuq)
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